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Muslim men

Forty Lessons from Forty Years

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

To celebrate growing older, I wrote a few lessons life has taught me, alhumdu lillah.

  1. When in doubt, just take the next small step. 
  1. Life isn’t fair, but it can still be good. 
  1. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will. 
  1. You don’t have to win every argument, stay true to yourself. 
  1. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone. 
  1. Make peace with your past so it won’t mess up the present. 
  1. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about. 
  1. Take a deep breath every now and then. It calms the mind. 
  1. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways. 
  1. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else. 
  1. No one oversees your happiness but you. 
  1. Forgive others and forgive yourself. 
  1. What other people think of you is none of your business. 
  1. Time heals almost everything. Give time a little time. 
  1. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. 
  1. Believe in miracles., Allah SWT is listening, Allah SWT is watching. 
  1. Allah SWT loves you because of who Allah is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do. 
  1. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young. 
  1. Your children get only one childhood, give them the best. 
  1. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere. 
  1. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need. 
  1. The best is yet to come… be optimistic. 
  1. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up. 
  1. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.” 
  1. Failure is a lesson in disguise. 
  1. You’re not behind — you’re on your own timeline. 
  1. Learn to rest, not quit. 
  1. Growth often feels uncomfortable — that’s how you know it’s working. 
  1. Let go of things not meant for you. 
  1. Gratitude shifts everything. 
  1. Most people are too focused on themselves to judge you. 
  1. Your thoughts aren’t always facts. 
  1. What you focus on expands. 
  1. Confidence comes from action, not waiting. 
  1. You can be a work in progress and still be proud. 
  1. Life is 10% what happens, 90% how you respond. 
  1. Forgiveness frees you, not them. 
  1. Sometimes peace is worth more than being right. 
  1. People show you who they are — believe them. 
  1. Energy is contagious. Be mindful of who you spend time with. 

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  1. Boundaries are a form of self-respect. 
  1. You won’t always feel motivated — build discipline 
  1. Time is the most valuable currency. 
  1. Sometimes you need to slow down to move forward. 
  1. Not everyone will like you — that’s okay. 

Ismail ibn Nazir Satia (one who is in dire need of Allah’s forgiveness, mercy and pleasure)

18th Shaban 1446

16th April 2025

Categories
Marriage

Lessons On Marriage

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1. EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A WEAKNESS
Only God has no weakness. Every rose flower has its own thorn. If you focus too much on your spouse’s weakness, you can’t get the best out of his/her strength.
 
2. EVERYONE YOU MARRY HAS A DARK HISTORY
No one is an angel, therefore, avoid digging one’s past. What matters is the present life of your partner. Old things are passed away. Try to forgive and forget. The past can’t be changed. So focus on the present and the future!
3. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS IT’S OWN CHALLENGES
Marriage is not bed of roses. Every shining marriage has gone through its own test of hot and excruciating fire. True love is proved in time of challenge. Fight for your marriage! Make up your mind to stay with your spouse in time of needs. Remember this is the vow you made on your wedding day!
4. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS DIFFERENT LEVELS OF SUCCESS
Don’t compare your marriage with anyone! We can never be equal, some will be far in front and others far behind. To avoid marriage stresses, be patient, work hard and with time, your marriage dreams shall come true.
5. TO MARRY IS TO DECLARE A WAR
When you marry, you must declare a war against enemies of marriage. Some of the enemies of marriage are: Ignorance, Rumours,  Prayerlessness, Unforgiveness, Adultery, Third Party Influence, Stinginess, Stubbornness, Lack Of Love, Rudeness, Wife battery, Laziness, winning, nagging, PRIDE,  Divorce etc. Be ready to fight to maintain your marriage zone.
6. THERE IS NO PERFECT MARRIAGE
There is no ready made marriage anywhere. Marriage is hard work, volunteer yourself and perfect it daily. Marriage is like a MOTOR CAR with a gear oil, gear box, etc If these parts are not properly maintained, the car will break down somewhere along the road and expose the occupant to unhealthy circumstances. – Many of us are careless about our marriage… Are you? If you are, please pay attention to your marriage.
7. GOD CANNOT GIVE YOU THE COMPLETE PERSON YOU DESIRE
God gives you, her or him in form of raw materials in order for you to mold what you desire. You may desire a woman who can pray for 1 hour but your wife can only pray for 30 minutes. With your love, prayer and encouragement, she can improve.
8. TO MARRY IS TO TAKE A RISK
You cannot predict what will happen after marriage, as situation may change, so, leave a room for adjustment. Pregnancy may not come in the next 4 years.. You may get married to her because she’s slim but she becomes a little fat after a child. He may lose his beautiful job for years that you have to take the financial responsibility of the family until he gets a new job. But with God by your side, you will smile at long last.
9. MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT, IT IS PERMANENT
Marriage needs total commitment, love is the glue that makes a couple stick together. Divorce starts in the mind. Never think of divorce! Never threaten your spouse with divorce. Choose to remain married! God hates divorce, though it’s permitted only in extreme cases.
10. EVERY MARRIAGE HAS A PRICE TO PAY
Marriage is like a bank account. It is the money you deposit into your bank account that you can withdrawn. If you don’t deposit love, peace and care into your marriage, you are not a candidate of a blissful home. There is no free love in marriage, You cannot love without giving and sacrificing.
May God grant us the grace and wisdom to succeed in it. Amen!!! Send it to married and single people on your contacts list.
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Miscellaneous

The Great Robbery.

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During a robbery in Guangzhou, China, the bank robber shouted to everyone in the bank: “Don’t move. The money belongs to the State. Your life belongs to you.”

Everyone in the bank laid down quietly. This is called “Mind Changing Concept” Changing the conventional way of thinking.

When a lady lay on the table provocatively, the robber shouted at her: “Please be civilized! This is a robbery and not a rape!”

This is called “Being Professional” Focus only on what you are trained to do!

When the bank robbers returned home, the younger robber (MBA-trained) told the older robber (who has only completed Year 6 in primary school): “Big brother, let’s count how much we got.”

The older robber rebutted and said: “You are very stupid. There is so much money it will take us a long time to count. Tonight, the TV news will tell us how much we robbed from the bank!”

This is called “Experience.” Nowadays, experience is more important than paper qualifications!

After the robbers had left, the bank manager told the bank supervisor to call the police quickly. But the supervisor said to him: “Wait! Let us take out $10 million from the bank for ourselves and add it to the $70 million that we have previously embezzled from the bank”.

This is called “Swim with the tide.” Converting an unfavorable situation to your advantage!

The supervisor says: “It will be good if there is a robbery every month.”

This is called “Killing Boredom.” Personal Happiness is more important than your job.

The next day, the TV news reported that $100 million was taken from the bank. The robbers counted and counted and counted, but they could only count $20 million. The robbers were very angry and complained: “We risked our lives and only took $20 million. The bank manager took $80 million with a snap of his fingers. It looks like it is better to be educated than to be a thief!”

This is called “Knowledge is worth as much as gold!”

The bank manager was smiling and happy because his losses in the share market are now covered by this robbery.

This is called “Seizing the opportunity.” Daring to take risks!

So who are the real robbers here?

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