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Forty Lessons from Forty Years

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

To celebrate growing older, I wrote a few lessons life has taught me, alhumdu lillah.

  1. When in doubt, just take the next small step. 
  1. Life isn’t fair, but it can still be good. 
  1. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will. 
  1. You don’t have to win every argument, stay true to yourself. 
  1. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone. 
  1. Make peace with your past so it won’t mess up the present. 
  1. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about. 
  1. Take a deep breath every now and then. It calms the mind. 
  1. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways. 
  1. It’s never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else. 
  1. No one oversees your happiness but you. 
  1. Forgive others and forgive yourself. 
  1. What other people think of you is none of your business. 
  1. Time heals almost everything. Give time a little time. 
  1. However good or bad a situation is, it will change. 
  1. Believe in miracles., Allah SWT is listening, Allah SWT is watching. 
  1. Allah SWT loves you because of who Allah is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do. 
  1. Growing old beats the alternative of dying young. 
  1. Your children get only one childhood, give them the best. 
  1. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere. 
  1. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you need. 
  1. The best is yet to come… be optimistic. 
  1. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up. 
  1. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.” 
  1. Failure is a lesson in disguise. 
  1. You’re not behind — you’re on your own timeline. 
  1. Learn to rest, not quit. 
  1. Growth often feels uncomfortable — that’s how you know it’s working. 
  1. Let go of things not meant for you. 
  1. Gratitude shifts everything. 
  1. Most people are too focused on themselves to judge you. 
  1. Your thoughts aren’t always facts. 
  1. What you focus on expands. 
  1. Confidence comes from action, not waiting. 
  1. You can be a work in progress and still be proud. 
  1. Life is 10% what happens, 90% how you respond. 
  1. Forgiveness frees you, not them. 
  1. Sometimes peace is worth more than being right. 
  1. People show you who they are — believe them. 
  1. Energy is contagious. Be mindful of who you spend time with. 

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  1. Boundaries are a form of self-respect. 
  1. You won’t always feel motivated — build discipline 
  1. Time is the most valuable currency. 
  1. Sometimes you need to slow down to move forward. 
  1. Not everyone will like you — that’s okay. 

Ismail ibn Nazir Satia (one who is in dire need of Allah’s forgiveness, mercy and pleasure)

18th Shaban 1446

16th April 2025

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10 Things You Need To Know About Qurbani/Udhiyyah

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

  1. Whoever possesses the Nisab (612 grams of silver) on the days of Qurbani, (10th/11th/12th Dhul Hijjah) Qurbani is wajib upon them. This wealth will exclude his daily necessities such as, house, car, clothes, furniture etc. Each adult member of the household on whom Sadaqat-ul-Fitr is Wajib (meaning the person who has wealth equal to the Nisaab of Zakah) would have to make his/her separate Qurbani. You don’t have to make Qurbani for your small children who are not baligh (the age of maturity). (Fatawa Hindiyyah 292/5)
  2. A person must be sane, mature and resident. Qurbani is not Wajib on a traveller (Shar’ee Musafir). (Shami 312/6)
  3. If a person has a debt, he will minus the payments of only 1 year till the day of Qurbani next year, not the whole amount and lump sum (interest repayable will not be included in debts). If this remaining amount is equal to Nisab, even though he has not had for 1 year, Qurbani will be Wajib because he has this amount in the days of Qurbani. (Mahmoodul Fatawa 689/4)
  4. You can buy a large animal (cow/camel) and have different intentions such as Wajib Qurbani, Nafl Qurbani and Aqeeqah. But everyone must have intention for reward. If one share is not for thawab then the whole Qurbani is not accepted. (Mahmoodul Fatawa 691/4)
  5. If you have missed Qurbani in the previous years and it was Wajib upon you, one must give the price of a sheep at the time you are making up for it E.g. September 2017 a sheep is £50 you must give £50, even it was cheaper in previous years. (Kifayatul Mufti 231/8 & Fatawa Mahmoodiyah 343/14)
  6. If a father is giving on behalf of his mature children he must ask them first, same for the wife.(Fatawa Alamghiri 393/5)
  7. In the first 10 days of Dhul Hijjah, not to trim your moustache, cut your hair, or clip your nails is Mustahab. If you act upon this, you must not cut them until your Qurbani is done i.e you cannot cut them before Eid Salah. The purpose for this is not to resemble the Hajis in Hajj, contrary to popular belief. The wisdom behind this is, the animal we are sacrificing, we are giving every part, every limb of that animal in place of our own body. When the mercy/rahmah of Qurbani is descending a single part of our body (hairs or nails) should not be deprived of the mercy of Qurbani. (Fatawa Rahimiyah 31/10)
  8. You can give a separate Qurbani for Esale Thawab on behalf of a deceased or the whole Ummah. (Raddul Mukhtar 472/9)
  9. The actual method of Qurbani and the best way to perform Qurbani is one buys an animal himself, he then looks after this animal as this animal is a great reward for him. He should become attached and close to this animal, (sacrificing this animal is like giving his own children away, story of Ibrahim AS). It is Mustahab to slaughter the animal yourself. If you are unable to slaughter the animal, be present at the time of slaughter, (bearing in mind the law of the land). (Fatawa Rahimiyah 28/10)

The Prophet Sallallaho Alayhi Wasallam told his daughter, “O Fatima! Be present at the time of slaughtering, for every drop (of blood) your sins are forgiven.” She replied, “O Messenger of Allah! Is this hospitality of Allah only for us (Ahle Bayt), or for everyone?” He Sallallaho Alayhi Wasallam answered, “Rather, it is for us and every Muslim.” (Tabarani)

  1. It is Mustahab to eat from the meat of your animal if possible, on the day of Eid. Also, feed your neighbours, relatives and friends. If there are any poor Muslims in the area feed them too. (Fatawa Rahimiyah 29/10) A warning for those who do not offer Qurbani: The Prophet Sallallaho Alayhi Wasallam said, “Whoever possesses wealth and does not perform Qurbani let him not come close to our place of worship (on Eid).”  (Ibn Majah)

NB: For those who offer Qurbani in the UK, a point to bear in mind as we do not receive the skin of the animals, we should give Sadaqah around £5 approximately.

Approved by Mufti Muhammad Farooq Saheb – Ustadh of Hadith/Ifta Jamiatul Ilm Walhuda, Blackburn

25th Dhul Qa’dah 1438